When some 40 year old scared child starts yelling, I dissociate, because I am also a scared child who went the other direction.
People pleasing is an awful habit that begets more, and bigger problems. Learning that I have this problem was the first step.
The hard part is being mindful of when it kicks in, and putting a stop to it. Repeated exposure with intention helps immensely. I get a friend to pretend to be upset with me, but I dont respond with walking on eggshells. I ask questions to get to the root of the problem, and remove my ego from the situation. I care about their emotion, but do not defend against it.
I'd rather walk down a busy street naked than talk about these thing publicly.